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Meet Quality Pressure

Books aren’t the only ones having to live up to expectations.
This is me explaining why the blog suffered from a lack of posts recently, so you don’t have to read it!

I have been blogging for more than a year. I’m still not over it. I can’t believe it’s been twelve months since my quivering finger pressed the button who gave life to Chocolate’n’waffles. Time flew but I remember not having a clue what I was doing or supposed to do. I still don’t know what I’m doing but don’t tell anyone.

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Of course, there was improvement. Of course? No, THANK GOD! My first reviews show just how little I knew about blogging or talking about books. Or about everything actually. Rereading my first posts makes me cringe. Don’t do it unless you want early wrinkles. But everyone goes through this stage, it’s the embarrassing birth, the blood, the sweat and the swearing before you start feeling your body again and believe the worst is behind you.

Then it dawns on you that it was only the beginning.

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With the practice comes improvement, confidence (sometimes) and a better hang of things. You manage your time better (or not. Someone tell me how I’m supposed to visit every single one of your blogs every day!), you expand your blog with challenges, tags, you meet people, you share more. If you’re doing it right and with a bit of luck, you gain followers. Better than than, you get blog friends. If you’re really lucky, you hit the jackpot and find real friends.

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So your stats grow, you let your blogging voice do the work, and you create a routine of interaction with people who like your rambles, who don’t care about all the tiny mistakes you make, genuinely kind people who want to share your journey through the realm of books. It is great, isn’t it?

So great that you start pressuring yourself.

Maybe it’s just me. It’s probably just me, I’m the queen of creating pressure out of thin air. So with its big fat red nose and whiny scary voice, Quality Pressure takes room n°3 in the B&B that is your head and comfortably settles with its cat slippers.

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At first, you mistake it with No-Confidence’s voice, another tenant from your B&B, telling you those reviews are not good enough, but then you realize this voice in nastier. It tells you the quality of your blog is lowering, people will realize you’re a fraud (*You’re a fraud and you know it….* Love that song. Damn it, Mike Ross, I’m just like you) and they will stop coming.

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Should it matter if people stop liking your posts and start visiting you less and less, like they do to that old smelly aunt living too far anyway? It matters to me. I love seeing those now familiar names appear on my notification bar, my heart flutters when I see your profile pic and I just can’t wait to discuss with you again, even if it’s just to say Hi.

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So in order not to lose this routine of interactions that make blogging 200% worth it and has become essential to you, you double your efforts to keep the standards you set for yourself. You start proofreading every post five times. You question your choice of books, or words, of graphics. Is it time for a design makeover? Should I start using more intelligent words like “plethora” ? (I love this word, saying it is like hugging your tongue.) Is this post fun enough? Am I doing enough?

It’s good to be on your toes and there is always room for improvement. We should ask ourselves questions to make sure we are happy with our babies. But what happens when this fear of losing the people you love to chat with is what drives your blog and you end up losing the real purpose of the whole thing?

Sometimes life kicks you in the calf and you don’t feel at your best. Your motivation is here, but your brain won’t let you have all the brilliant ideas, the marvelous and inspired reviews, the words that will make your reader cry with laughter. Is it okay to keep going anyway? Is it okay to go with “good enough”?

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If this blog had stayed where I thought it would, meaning in the deepest hole  of the basement of the blogging universe where nobody goes, my answer would have been a big yes. It’s okay not to feel you’re doing so great but to continue. After all, you can’t always be at your best, and it comes and goes in waves (I’m wondering how many songs I can fit into this post…).

But when your regulars are around (not sounding like a prostitute at all here…), you don’t want to disappoint them. I know I don’t. I want to keep producing posts that make you react and willing to keep me around.

So I hide a little, I search for ways to makes things better without having to use steroids or send free chocolate. I torture myself thinking it will all go away, that the magic is gone and I am back to being this boring and shy person. I lose all the confidence I slowly built with your help.

Most anxiety-sufferers know that feeling but I am sure everyone gets a visit from that old Quality Pressure lady once in a while. Unless you’re that brilliant blogger with all the answers and creativity springing off your fingers every time they touch the keyboard, and in that case, you’re not reading this.

But there’s one thing that blogging keeps reminding me. I am not alone.

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When you last expect it, when you’re repainting your nails for the fourth time because you can’t figure out how to review that hundredth book, when you think the world doesn’t need your input, you get a message. An actual message, I don’t believe it life’s messages, you should see what she did to my January… So a DM, comment, tweet, whatsapp, skype thing, or FB post comes along. You receive or you just see something and it reminds you we’re all in the same pit.

Good enough is okay, you don’t have to settle for less, you just have to settle. To guard that place you made, to keep caring for your books, feelings, blog, blog friends. You just need to hang in there and do your best. Even when your best is a retweet of your favorite review. Because this is good enough.

You know what, Quality Pressure? I hope you get eaten by Anna’s inner goddess one day. Until that moment comes, I’ll fight you. I’ll prove you I can keep going. I’ll show you any post or comment written with warmth and honesty can bring just as much as any beautiful piece of work. I’ll keep going and reaching for bloggers, I’ll keep caring and sharing, I’ll keep working hard. I’ll keep enjoying the hell out of it. Maybe this is what quality is about. Being in it for the long haul. I’ll never make the best blogs list. I’m okay with that. As long as blogging brings me joy and a place to escape, a place to be. And if a few people disappear along the way? It’s okay. After all, people come and go into your life all the time. Don’t take it too hard.

Now you deserve a giant bar of chocolate if you actually read this rambling til the end. This is a reminder you don’t have to be 100% all the time, and you rock.

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Have you met Quality Pressure? Has the amount of people enjoying your blog made you feel pressured to do more and better? Should I just shut up now?

PS: This post deserves a lot of Donna Paulsen gifs. Deal with it.

89 thoughts on “Meet Quality Pressure

  1. Hey, CONGRATS on one year of blogging! I do feel like with more followers comes more pressure, but in a really good way. Blogging is a TON of work, but it’s so much fun too!

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    1. Thanks 🙂 I feel I started yesterday! I know, I need a kick in the butt once in a while to remind me I blog for myself and that it should only be FUN! But that mean Quality Pressure loves to visit!

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      1. It’s hard not to get overwhelmed by it sometimes. Especially when you’re trying to accomplish other things at the same time. It’s so worth it so far, but I totally understand that!

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  2. Very thoughtful post! I think a little bit of pressure can be good. (Those moments where I’m tempted to just throw something together and then realize I might be better off just waiting and writing a better quality post.) But I definitely don’t want it to feel stifling!

    I like to think that much of the blogosphere is full of sympathetic readers though. And when stats drop, maybe it’s not me but because they actually have lives or something… 😉

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    1. Thank you 🙂 Yes, a bit of pressure can be good, as long as it doesn’t become overwhelming and leaves you unable to enjoy your hobby. I am not so scared of my stats dropping, they are only numbers, I just don’t want to disappoint the friends who have been enjoying my blog 🙂

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  3. Plethora is a wonderful word, it’s one of my favourite ‘clever’ sounding words that I on occasion use, I’m far to informal to use big words but do at times pull one out.😂

    Amen to not bothering about the small mistakes! My blog is littered with them! The only time I’ve had a bad comment about a small mistake was on a poem I wrote, one of the really deep and meaningful ones to, it was something like ‘hey poet! You can’t use an apostrophe blah blah blah’ and it annoyed the hell out of me as I’d put feeling and meaning into what I’d wrote only to get ragged on for my grammar by some nameless (insert word here) but generally I try to let the little mistakes slide, we aren’t ‘professionals’ we are just book lovers and as such are allowed the occasional minor error.

    Totally agree about proof reading, I read my stuff, especially reviews (I still think I’m crap at them) alot (even if it doesn’t show) and tweak and change little bits to try and improve it before finally hitting that schedule/publish button.

    Great post Waffles.😀

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    1. I know, I love plethora, it’s a magical word 😂
      Yeah, it’s easy for me to forget that this hobby is all about me at its core, the sharing and interacting thing is a nice plus. Haha, I can’t say a thing about that, I am a grammar nazi, even though I never said a thing on your poems xD
      It’s funny how we all are masochists, haha! We love our blogs but we suffer a bit because of them! Thanks Marshie! 😘

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  4. What do you mean, I’ve loved every one of your posts, also the early ones! That’s how I got to know you so of course I like them. As for me, yes I have met Queen Pressure too. I still get new followers every day (that I usually never hear of again thereafter but still) and I had a moment there that I felt that I had to ‘deliver’. I struggled with too many books and deadlines but now I’m in the good zone again. I’ve told myself over and over that it’s ok not to post, to just do what I want, even if it’s just for me. I don’t know how you do it to comment on all these blogs but that’s something I can’t do. I have a few favorites that I’ll always visit and a few that capture my attention and I want to read, and those that left a comment and deserve a closer look too, but that’s about it, even that takes me more than an hour every day. If you’re away from home 9 hours a day going to work, that’s just the best I can do. Don’t be so hard on yourself, you don’t have to reread your posts so many times, I will still love it if you don’t, I’m sure of it. All I want is to hear your opinion about a book because I value your opinion!

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    1. This is too sweet for words 😘 I’m really happy you decided to stick with me, for better or for worse, haha!
      I know! The follower count keeps going higher but I never hear from those people so I stopped even looking at the names until I get at least a comment or a like. There’s not enough time to discover every single blog that never bothers to interact anyway! I’m glad you found your comfort and happy blogging zone, stay there! I try to limit myself to favorites but they are still too many, haha! So I need to learn it’s okay if you miss a post or two. Thanks so much for everything, you sure know how to bring back Miss Confidence with such a great support!

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  5. Fab post, Donna. I hope the pressure fades or can be ignored! I know how you feel – when I first started my blog, I promised myself I would do it regularly and I did for a long while. But writing deadlines and life’s pressures mean that I have had to cut down how often I blog, and I still feel guilty, although I’m sure my followers are too busy themselves to notice 🙂 I enjoy your posts . . . but would rather you mostly blog because you enjoy it, not because you feel you have to!

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    1. Thanks so much Helen. I feel the pressure and the guilt inevitably comes with a blog at some point. We need a support group to come up with tactics 🙂 Thank you for sticking with the waffles and me 🙂 I’ll stick with the fun of blogging and kick Quality pressure out!

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  6. Donna, don’t be so hard on yourself. You are more than good enough so don’t pressure yourself. I’ll also let you into a probably not so secret, secret – at some stage we all feel the same. I’ve done the my blog isn’t as good as …, why didn’t people respond to X …. I had less responses this week ….The reality is that way madness lies. I can’t read every blog I follow, some days I don’t read any. Twitter is hit and miss, and sometimes I’ll just respond on books I’d read myself. All of these logical reasons for not doing are easily misconstrued by the person waiting at the other end for a response. I guess basically I’m saying, carry on doing what your doing, do it for you, and keep being you, don’t doubt yourself and don’t let it stop being fun (should try taking my own advice sometimes!) Take care, love, Jill

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    1. This is some brilliant advice 🙂 Thank you so much for taking the time to chime in. I have always had the tendency to be hard on myself but I keep hoping I will learn to appreciate what I do without pressure. Time plays such a bit part in blogging, some days are just too swamped for this hour-consuming hobby! Will we ever learn to not expect to do it all? 🙂 But I’m motivated to keep the fun going! xx

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  7. Sometimes I write a blog I think is absolutely awesome and no one likes it! EGAD! What now? And then I throw together a piece of you-know-what and everyone likes it. What??? I just tell myself it has something to do with the date and time of my blog. And then I try to move on. The operative word being ‘try’.

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  8. Donna, this was a fantastically written post! You nailed it every which way, so you did… you gave the doubts, you gave the sadness, the fun and the hopeful ending.
    Yes, the pressure does raise her ugly head sometimes, and the feeling of just not being quite there, quite as good… because some blogs are just brilliant and they make me feel like I don’t even count as an amateur, but… I always find a way to not care? If I start comparing my blog, my way of blogging, my way of keeping up with others or sharing or tweeting or… everything, then I will lose the plot! Ha, that’s punny! So, I just keep reminding myself to take it easy, to kick Lady Pressure in the nuts and just do what I normally do… I think, even if all the followers dropped off my blog, I would still keep writing reviews… my blog is like my friend… actually, it is my friend.. my daily friend that I can turn to any time…

    And- yes, to the fact that the more people are interested in my blog, I do feel like it’s time to brush up more, to do more, to find a way to be funnier with each post, to be more deep with each review, to just be winning it, you know? But at the end of the day… I am just plain old me and ain’t no force going to make me change that fact! Plus I’m a great believer of staying true to myself, my voice, my way of things because anything else would just feel forced, fake, and would add even more pressure to be and do and say things in a way that doesn’t come naturally.

    I have a group of bloggers (yourself included) that I always -always- always stick to because I know that you- yes, you- always manage to amaze me with your well written reviews, I always learn from your reviews (even if it’s for a book I won’t maybe ever read) and everyone is just so different. With their own voice, their own humor, their own occasional pottymouth and I love it 🙂 Pressure be damned, I love your blog, your reviews and your presence! I am here because you have wowed me many many times and even when you feel that you’re having one of those not-so-great days when a review doesn’t want to flow, you’re still nailing it! Always. ❤

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    1. And you just activated my lacrymal glands ❤ Thank you so much (not for the teary eyes, but for everything and more!) I LOVE that you consider your blog as your friend! I should totally do that! I'm pretty sure it would help with the pressure as I am so much gentler on friends than on myself or my projects! This is such a nice way of seeing things so that you don't get all worked up about it. You are so right, the blog is here no matter what, no matter how I feel, no matter if I insulted WP because it wasn't working, just like a friend, one you can always count on.
      I love that you believe in yourself and your voice like this, I need to copy that, that blog is me and my voice, and it's not too bad 🙂 I am so thankful to have met you and I will cherish those words for good days when I feel grateful and bad days when I feel like crap ❤ You are a delight to talk to, a strong support, a talented blogger and a real friend, so thank you. Take that, Quality Pressure!

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    1. It’s the same for me during exams. But don’t worry, your blog will always welcome you back and I’m sure you’ll keep things great as long as it’s fun 🙂

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    1. Thanks so much 🙂 This post was meant to kick the pressure out and it works thanks to all of the sweet support I have been getting. I choose my blog friends over Pressure, even if she has great hair :p

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  9. I want to commend and applaud you Adorable Waffle Lover! This post hits my very core. Quality pressure is a queen B and affects so many areas of my life, including blogging. Maybe I am too new still have felt the full impact. But I relate to this on many fronts. It is like a secret lurking fear and pressure no one talks about. Thank you ❤ and btw your blog still rocks sweet pea 😜

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    1. Aw, this is too much to handle ❤ This mean Quality Pressure lady has been by my side once in a while since I started but the beginning of the year had her constantly making me doubts so I wanted to share to take away some of her power. I should get a tattoo that says FUN! Because I keep forgetting I'm doing this for myself first and that the awesome people I love, you including, won't care if things are not so perfect, as long as it's still me being me. I'm so thankful for that. Let me know when that Queen B is bothering you too much, I'll kick her in the boobs!!!
      I do feel that pressure in every area of my life, the studies, the baking, the education of the dogs, the maintaining of my hair color, haha! But I don't want it to take over the blog. You are the shining star that reminds me it's okay to be me ❤ Thank you! (being so cheesy and smiling now….)

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      1. Haha, I simply love you Donna. We have so much more in common sometimes than I think. Pressure is always squeezing on me in aspect of my life. I think we just hold ourselves to high standards ❤ Which is ok, we just have to have fun setting those standards. Oh and making waffles and tea. Or eating Valium… today it is Valium.. sigh ❤

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        1. Haha, yeah it’s crazy how we have so much in common. For this I thank the Internet and our subconscious call to one another through the waves of the virtual world! Yay brains finding each other! High standards are good when you have friends to help you climb up there to meet them or help you lower them a bit and be just fine ❤ We are definitely too harsh on our perfectionist selves 🙂 ❤ Tea and Valium; with a waffle to make it all pass. We should move in together haha! ❤ Valium day today here too.

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    1. Thanks for reading and chiming in ❤ I felt it was time to lift that weight of my shoulders and say bye-bye to Quality Pressure by showing her it's US against her! 🙂

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  10. Amazing, thoughtful post!
    I can imagine how much pressure blogger can have ( I mean, as a blogger myself, I know something), and yes, how amazing it is to see familiar faces coming and leaving their comments.
    I don’t think it’s bad to take some pause when you feel like it.
    As you know, I was on “blogging vacation” recently, and I was a bit afraid people won’t be visiting once I come back, but I was pleasently surprised. They didn’t forget me or my blog. 🙂

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    1. Breaks are definitely a must once in a while to keep the flame alive! You can’t spend all your time with someone and expect the magic to stay forever, a little space is needed! It’s the same for blogs! I took a holiday last July and it was the right thing to do. But pressure loves to creep in even when I’m in full blog mode. Thanks so much for visiting!

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  11. A year of blogging? That’s amazing! Congratulations! I have actually met Quality Pressure… and she’s a bitch. Lol. I try hard not to let it affect me, but I think that’s impossible for all of us. We, as humans, can’t help but to want to be the best we can be and be liked. But that’s just a plus that comes with it. Blogging is meant to be fun! A hobby! So that’s what I try to keep in mind when I start feeling the pressures of it all. Making friends along the way and gaining followers is a really exciting and positive thing — we just need a little reminder sometimes that we’re doing this for ourselves, not for anyone else!! (I’m not sure if my rambling just made sense at all, so if not, I’m sorry! Lol)

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  12. Great and thoughtful post. I think most of us have felt like this at times. I started off wanting to blog more because I enjoyed it , but also because I wanted more followers. Now I want to post more so that my regular readers will pop by and we can chat. I think as long as it stays fun and you can keep a blog / life balance then we are doing well. Ps. I love your posts. Amanda x

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    1. Thank you so much, Amanda 🙂 I am always looking forward to your posts. That’s what I like about blogging. I really needed to get this off my chest and let others know we are all the same!

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  13. Oh Donna, we all have those moments but I can assure you we wouldn’t keep visiting if we didn’t like what we find!! I also have times when it all seems too much – sadly I can’t visit everyone I’d like to every day – when would I read? I need to read to post and so the merry go round rotates. Banish the inhabitants of that B&B and enjoy – hugs and kisses 😘

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    1. Thanks you so much for your kind words 🙂 I admit this time the pressure was a bit too high so I shared in the hope to make it disappear! Thanks to everyone’s support, I kicked that lady out of the B&B 🙂 Lots of hugs! xxx

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  14. Loved this post Donna! because it resonates with what probably a lot of us feel at some point or another, Congrats on your 1 year milestone & continue creating, you’re one of the few whose personalities pop right out and that goes a long way. Just like you do, I enjoy seeing familiar names pop up in my notifications & establishing real friendships are always a plus. Giggles @ “But when your regulars are around (not sounding like a prostitute at all here…), you don’t want to disappoint them” & I completely understand lol 🙂

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  15. Wonderful post, Bestie! 🙂 I love the Donna gifs. 😍 She’s so you! Love it! We’re Donna and Rachel. 😘 Dream team! I was reading and thinking of her saying I’m Donna. You know how she says it. I love it. Lol Grammar mistakes drive me nuts but you never make any so don’t worry. Your English is far better than most native speakers. I stop reading posts and blogs when I see lots of mistakes. It’s very frustrating because I’m reading and correcting it in my head.

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    1. Haha yes, we need mugs and tee shirts!! 😀 We’re The Best! Too bad we can’t customize the FB calls ringtone, I would have recorded my own ‘I’m Donna’ thing for you to hear whenever I called xD I know, I can handle a few mistakes but too many in every post and bye-bye!!!!

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      1. Haha! Mugs and tees to celebrate our awesomeness. 🙂 That would be nice if we could have special ringtones. I want yours to be Donna from Suits and have her say Because I’m Donna. I love her. 😍 and you. 😘 Lol I know. I hate repetitive typos. It’s like why am I reading this when there are about a million other blogs. Lol

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  16. This post is everything, thank you for writing it. I do tend to feel more and more pressured about blogging, and it’s important to remind ourselves that we do this for fun, but when you see your stats going a bit down one day, or a blog post not being as popular as you wanted it to be, well…it’s hard. And I am a perfectionnist, and a very anxious person, and I panic a lot about my blog, maybe way too much haha but well…another way to look at this is that we are passionate people ? And that we are having fun – at least when we are not panicking, and that’s the most important thing 😀

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    1. Thank YOU for being here ❤ I feel like the more we get invested and have our friends around, the more pressure has a hold on us. I think I need a post-it with "fun" written on it!! Or a tattoo! It'd look great on my left wrist in comparison to the one on the right! We are so much the same, my Sweechie ❤ If Quality Pressure bothers, you, run to me! I'll make her go away! That's why I'm happy we're upgrading around the same time, we'll fight the fear and possible crisis together, haha! We definitely are passionate, that's why we take things so personality and to such an extreme. Fun rhymes with you, Sweechie! 😀

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  17. Donna, I don’t think you realize how witty and creative your blog posts actually are! In the 4 months I’ve been blogging, your posts, especially your GIFS are ones I so look forward to. I don’t have that creativity to come up with witty posts that also incorporate GIFS and that’s ok because what I really enjoy is writing reviews that hopefully inspire people to pick up a new read as well as (hopefully) bring a smile to the author’s face. That’s my thing and that’s what makes the blogging community so awesome and diverse…everyone brings something different to the community. Don’t let the stats bog you down😊 Keep doing your thing, it’s great!! I LOVE your Donna GIFS, she’s one of my fav characters!

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    1. Aw, this is too sweet thank you! I always feel the creativity fairy sneezed on my cradle and I never got my part, haha. I admit I love how the blog and the gifs have helped me find a voice, and more particularly my adult voice, even if it doesn’t sound like it! I feel more confident now that I have all of this and I know what I’m talking about, but sometimes quality pressure nags and nags and you can’t always kick her away on your own, so I’m using everyone’s nice words to fight it 🙂 I love the way you talk about books, your reviews have made my TBR bigger!
      Haha, I love Donna and the fact we share a name :p

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  18. I think we are so hard on ourselves because we never want to let anyone else down. Us bloggers are super sensitive to everyone else’s needs but our own. Sometimes we just gotta sit back and say screw it and hit publish whether the post is 100% or not. Personally I love your blog, and I think you are amazing. If the anxiety bug every hits you up again just message me I’ll talk you down, or into a giant glass of wine 😉 Congrats on a year!!

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    1. That’s exactly it; our hypersensitivity and perfectionism can bring the best and the worst in us. I need to remember to “screw it” That would be an amazing tattoo, haha! Thanks so much for saying this. While it may sound just nice to others, to me it really reaches my heart and I feed with this to block all negativity from my conditions, so thank you. I’ll take up to that xxx
      Thank you!!

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  19. Great post Donna. 🙂 I sometimes get a little insecure about my blog and it’s mainly the whole; ‘is anyone bothering to read what I post’ or ‘do people like reading my posts’ questions and things like that. But like you it’s always worth it when you see the regulars comment and like your stuff and see the notifications pop up on WordPress as well. 🙂
    I’m pretty much a ball of stress during the day and for me blogging has always been a way to wind down a little so I do try not to worry about it as much (and yeah, it’s one thing saying it another thing doing it right?) But I’m here to have fun and talk to people about books which is what I’m doing so I can count that as a success at least!
    I’ve never gone back and re-read my first post. I honestly don’t think I could do that to myself!

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    1. Thanks so much for taking the time to read this, Beth 🙂 Exactly, I love seeing my blog friends come over and say hi on posts. I don’t care at all about new followers who never appear again on your blog or about my stats but I want to keep things interesting for the people who take the time to visit and chat. Having fun is the key element here and I tend to be so harsh on myself that I forget I won’t be marked for this or judged about it (I think!) so there’s still work to do but I enjoy blogging too much to let pressure take it away from me.
      Haha, don’t go back to your first post, just don’t!!!

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      1. That’s all right! 😀 ❤
        No neither do I actually, the best part about blogging for me is the conversations I have with you and my other followers who I speak to daily. The whole reason I started this blog was to interact with people and I love being able to do that.
        Blogging is definitely fun, and don't worry I'd never judge you or your posts, and I'm sure everyone else would be the same.
        I don't think I'm brave enough to go all the way back there! 🙂

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  20. I was very tempted to stand up and start clapping after I was done reading this because of how amazing this post is but then realized that I’m in a quiet room filled with people. We are our own harshest judge, and I agree, you don’t always have to be perfect in order to be a great person. Reading this post reminded me that I shouldn’t always be so hard on myself.

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    1. Haha, I have a tendency to be loud in places I should, so I can totally relate! Crying in a crowded room because of a book is another problem of the same kind. Thank you so much for chiming in. It is awful to see just how harsh we are on ourselves and I hope we all get to be nicer 🙂 Easier said than done but let’s keep trying!

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  21. Oh, yes – I think we’ve all felt that pressure! And I hate when someone who’s been a regular visitor gives up on me – can’t deny it hurts. But as you say, it happens in life as well as blogging. I’m a newish visitor to your blog but I always enjoy reading your posts. And having been a blogger for four years now, I’ve come to the conclusion that I shouldn’t worry too much about quality – I don’t think most of the people out there in blogworld are terribly judgemental. I reckon we just all want to make connections with other book and blog lovers… 🙂

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    1. Thanks so much for taking the time to react to this post 🙂 It was a very important one for me as I wanted to get rid of the pressure! You’ve been blogging for four years?? I can’t even imagine that! Congrats! I should listen to the voice of experience then 🙂

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  22. WHat are you even saying, your posts are always great quality and you take your time so everything is great!!! (Not like mine, which I write in about 10 minutes haha). Don’t worry ❤

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  23. I love the amount of Suits you’ve integrated in this post! All Donna’s are amazing so far! 😛 I definitely see how quality pressure came crawling into your blogging bubble and started poking holes here and there. I’m glad to hear it ain’t going to stop you from doing what you enjoy, especially on the long haul! It’s all about enjoying what you’re doing, and DOING it. It’s definitely not about pleasing a crowd (even if it’s very satisfying). In fact, the crowd’s reaction should just be that “unexpected plus” to blogging! Loved reading this post! Great stuff! 😀

    – Lashaan

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    1. Donna Paulsen is my TV self :p I just miss the show so much and those gifs were perfect 😀 No way I’m letting pressure win, this blog is here to stay until the fun goes away! Exactly! I like the “unexpected plus”, haha! You were my unexpected plus of the morning xD Thanks so much for visiting!

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  24. Donna, I needed to read this so much, I can’t even tell you. Thank you for expressing exactly what I feel, and reminding me I’m definitely not the only one who feels it, and reassuring me that Things Will Be Okay No Matter What (capitalized because the message is super important). You’re the best.

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  25. Hehehe that cat gif is amazing!! And who knows what they’re doing?! (I certainly don’t!) Ahhh I agree with you so much on this one- especially when you start thinking about seeing particular people again on your blog and worrying what regulars will think if I do something different. Basically- yeah- I totally get what you’re talking about!! But like you said it’s all the amazing people on here- you especially!!- that make it all worth it!!!
    (hehe btw there are a plethora of different reasons to use the word “plethora” over and over again!! 😉 )

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    1. Hahahaha PLETHORA LOVE ❤ Thanks so much my favorite banana for chiming in. It all feels less overwhelming when you know you're not the only one struggling to it 🙂 I am always looking forward to certain people's comments or likes (You are so included in this list) that I feel I need to make it all perfect, but I'd better remember being me is enough 🙂

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  26. What a wonderful post!! I’ve been a bit overwhelmed lately (hence why I’m reading this several days after you posted it), and was feeling a bit lost, but this post has helped me see that it’s OK to take a step back every so often! Thank you for this post – it was very encouraging 🙂

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    1. I am so happy if this post helped you a little. It is so easy to feel overwhelmed by blogging and everything that comes with it. Thank you for visiting and I hope you’ll feel better about it all soon.

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